It was brought to my attention that I had concentrated on the duties and responsibilities of the woman in Islam, why hadn't I included the duties and responsibilities of the man? On this page will be listed the duties and responsibilities of the man according to the Qur'an and Sunnah.
The man, once he reaches the age of puberty, is responsible for performing all salats (prayers), fasting, and the performance of Hajj when he is financially and physically able. It is mandatory on him to attend all prayers at the mosque in congregation if he is physically able to do so. This is especially true of Juma'ah.
CONCERNING PRAYER IN JUMA'AH: Prayer in Juma'ah is acceptable only if he prays it with the Muslim Juma'ah in the mosque - since Allah ta'aalaa did not only order Prayer but also added to it - And bow down your heads with those who bow down (in worship). [2:43] - and he is not allowed to suffice with praying in his home and leave the Juma'ah of the Muslims. And the Messenger (S) ordered every fit and well Muslim to pray in the Mosque and desired to burn those who remained in their houses - as occurs in 'Sahih al- Bukhari' and 'Sahih Muslim' from Abu Hurairah (R). He (S) did not burn the houses because of the presence of women and children on whom Prayer in the mosque is not obligatory.
Following is another excerpt form an article by Sheikh ibn Baaz's article on prayer... <<.....During his travels, he used to practice the two optional Rakaat before the morning prayer and also the Witr prayer (after the I'sha prayer). There is no objection to perform these optional prayers in the mosque, but it is better to perform it at home, because the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be on him, said "The best of the prayers are those which are fulfilled at one's own home, with exception to obligatory prayers which should be performed in congregation at the mosque.">> Following are a collection of Hadith that speak about the importance of congregational prayer... Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith -Hadith 1.631 Narrated by Abu Huraira The Prophet said, "Allah will prepare for him who goes to the mosque (every) morning and in the afternoon (for the congregational prayer) an honorable place in Paradise with good hospitality for (what he has done) every morning and afternoon going. -------- Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith - Hadith 1.619 Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri The Prophet said, "The prayer in congregation is twenty five times superior to the prayer offered by person alone." ------ Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith - Hadith 1.620 Narrated by Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "The reward of the prayer offered by a person in congregation is twenty five times greater than that of the prayer offered in one's house or in the market (alone). And this is because if he performs ablution and does it perfectly and then proceeds to the mosque with the sole intention of praying, then for every step he takes towards the mosque, he is upgraded one degree in reward and his one sin is taken off (crossed out) from his accounts (of deeds). When he offers his prayer, the angels keep on asking Allah's blessings and Allah's forgiveness for him as long as he is (staying) at his Musalla. They say, 'O Allah! Bestow Your blessings upon him, be Merciful and kind to him.' And one is regarded in prayer as long as one is waiting for the prayer."
Duties in regards to marriage
"Because the Qur'an and the Sunnah of the Prophet have commanded kindness to women, it is the husband's duty to consort with his wife in an equitable and kind manner."1 This means that he is responsible for her maintenance, and that of any children, he cannot abuse nor keep her in suspense or uncertainty. If he feels that he cannot fulfill his obligations to her then he must let her go in peace and justice. He should not force her to seek Khul (divorce by the wife) just to get a return of the Mahr (dowry), for in this case, she would be entitled to keep it. I have gone into this in more depth under Divorce.
The article below has a list of guidelines for the husband.
Family Etiquettes: A Husband's Responsibilities towards his family
family is that brick which forms the foundation of a society. It is composed of
individuals that have permanent relations established between them. Most
importantly, it possesses almost a majority of the different kinds of personal
of this, there must be certain etiquettes placed in order to control and
regulate these relations. This is such that it can be maintained in the best
possible manner, and so that it can generate and produce its proper fruits.
Family relations consist of the relationship between the spouses from one
perspective, the relationship between the parents and the children from a second
perspective, and the relationship between the children themselves from a third
of the husband
It is not from the deficiencies, but rather from good manners, that the husband
shares in the responsibility of specified matters, such as the mending of
garments or what is similar to that.
It is appropriate for a man to not restrict himself from serving himself. This
is since the wife takes care of the household affairs. So therefore, it is from
good manners that the husband extend a helping hand to his wife in the house,
during times of necessity, such as when she is sick, pregnant, has given birth
or similar to that.
The exemplary husband is he who cooperates with his wife by bearing good
relations and showing kind manners (to her), according to the full extent of the
meaning contained in these (last) two expressions. Truly, the husbands who are
best at working alongside their wives are the best of mankind in the view of Islam.
This good way of living between the spouses must be deeply imbedded into the
daily marital life, even at the time of divorce.
Beware of characterizing the relationship between the spouses with
over-seriousness! For indeed characterizing the family life with a militaristic
nature amounts to one of the causes for failure and bad results.
From the kind and noble manners of the husband is that he complies and assents
to the requests of his wife, so long as they are not forbidden in the Religion.
And being luxurious in food, drink and clothing is at the entrance of matters
forbidden in the Religion.
The husband should specify a time in which he can play around and pass free time
with his wife.
The relationship between the spouses must contain one singular and specific
nature. And it cannot be this way unless the couple begins demolishing all the
obstacles and impediments that stand between them. For example, the husband
should not feel timid and restrain himself from drinking out of the same cup
that his wife drinks out of.
There is no human being that is perfect. So there is no doubt that the husband
will see things in his wife that does not comply with his natural disposition
and preferences. If these aspects are not in opposition to the fundaments of the
Religion or to the obedience of the husband and his rights, then at that point,
he should not try to change her personality so that it complies with his natural
And he must always remember that for each member of the couple, there will be an
aspect of ones personality that conflicts with the others personality. And he
should also remember that if there are some characteristics that he doesn't find
pleasing in his wife, then indeed she has other characteristics, which will
definitely be pleasing to him.
Do not let Ramadan be a barrier that impedes you from showing affection to your
wife, such as by kissing her. But this is so long as you are able to refrain
yourself, since what is forbidden during the days of Ramadan is only sexual
Do not chase after the errors of your wife and recount them to her, for too much
blaming and reprimanding will worsen the relationship between the two of you,
and it will pose a threat to your marital life. So overlook your wife's easy
ability to make mistakes, and make her falling into them seem like something
If you are able, do not hold back from providing your wife with good clothing
and food, and from being generous in spending money on her. This is of course
according to the extent of your ability.
Do not give little importance to implementing the punishment required for any
acts in opposition to the Religion, which your wife has committed, whether it is
in the home or outside it. This should be the main reason that causes you to
become angry, thus no other reason should affect you (besides this one).
What has been stated previously does not mean that you should leave matters
alone until that result comes to happen. Thus, whenever you realize that a
matter is left alone, weigh it with seriousness and determination, without being
too harsh or rude about it.
The woman is the head of the household, the one responsible for it. So do not
attempt to meddle into affairs that do not fall into your area of duties and
responsibilities, such as the food and the order of the house.
Beware of scolding your wife or blaming her for a mistake she committed, in the
presence of others, even if they are your own children. For indeed that is an
act that goes against correct behavior and it will lead to raising anger in the
hearts of people.
If you are forced to place punishment upon your wife, then let it be by staying
away from her at bedtime. And do not boycott her except that it is done within
the household. And avoid using foul language, insulting her, beating her and
describing her with repulsive names. For these matters do not befit an exemplary
Having jealousy and caring about the modesty of your wife is a praiseworthy
thing, which shows your love for her. However it is on the condition that you do
not go to great extremes in this jealousy. For then at that point, it would turn
into something worthy of no praise.
Entering the house: Do not alarm your family by entering upon them suddenly.
Rather, enter while they are aware of it, and greet them with Salaam. And ask
about them and how they are doing. And do not forget to remember Allah, the
Mighty and Sublime, when you enter the house.
Beware of spreading any secrets connected with the intimate encounters you have
with your wife, for that is something restricted and forbidden.
Constantly maintain the cleaning of your mouth and the freshening of your
Guardianship of your wife doesn't mean that you can exploit what Allah has
bestowed upon you from taking charge of her, such that you harm and oppress her.
Showing respect and kindness to your wife's family is showing respect and
kindness to her. And this applies even after her death, on the condition that it
is not accompanied by an act forbidden in the Religion, such as intermingling of
the sexes or being in privacy (with them).
Too much joking will lead to (your family having) little fear (of disobeying
you) and a lack of respect for you. So do not joke too much with your wife.
Be considerate that fulfilling the conditions which you promised to your wife
during the pre-marriage agreement is a matter possessing the highest of
importance and priority. So do not neglect that after getting married.
When you lecture your wife or reprimand her or simply speak to her, choose the
kindest and nicest of words and expressions for your speech. And do not
reprimand her in front of others or in front of your children.
It is not proper for you to ask your wife to look for work outside of the house
or to spend upon you from her wealth.
Do not overburden your wife with acts that she is not able to handle. Consider,
with extreme regard, the environment she was raised up in. Rural service is not
like urban service, and the service of a strong woman and her preparation for it
is not like the service of a weak woman.
There is nothing in the obligation of a woman's service to her husband that
negates his assisting her in that regard, if he should find the free time.
Rather, this is from the good manners of living between the spouses.
1. Islam in Focus by Hammudah Abdulati, Pg.117